Love
Written May 2002
Love at first sight sounds like such
a nice concept, doesn't it? Unfortunately, I really don't think it's
a truthful one. I'm sure some people will disagree with me, but if
I cared about people disagreeing with my opinions, I wouldn't have
made this website.
What I think actually happens, is you
can have certain feelings for someone, but they aren't love. They
can be; like, lust, desire, want, infatuation, care, concern, interest,
curiosity, or obsession. It could be just one of those, or a mixture.
And that feeling is the feeling that gets confused for love.
It's my belief, that to really love someone
in the romantic fashion, you need to get to know them first. And not
just surface stuff, but deep conversations. As you get to know the
person better, than you can fall in love. Sometimes the falling part
will be quicker for some people than others, but I still feel it doesn't
happen all at once. I know some people will say that they did, but
I would disagree with them. I would say that they felt a mixture of
the other feelings, perhaps strongly, then as they got to know each
other, fell in love.
There is another possible reason too,
and this one has to deal with past lives. I do believe in them. Sometimes
when you first meet someone (or later on), you can feel feelings you
felt for that person from a past life. So I would say it is possible
to feel love for someone at first meeting, but it's only like an echo
from a past life. In the currently life, you really don't know them
well enough for loving them. You may end up falling in love with that
person, and have a happy life together, but just because you feel
feelings from a past life, it doesn't mean anything is meant to happen
in this one.