Liking Someone
Written May 2002
By liking I mean what could be called
a crush, or a wanting to maybe date or hang out with the person who
is being liked.
Sometimes I wonder if the act of liking
someone is a selfish thing (In the situation where the person doesn't
like you back, or you don't know if that person likes you). Why is
it selfish? Because this person has friends, family, a job, school,
etc.. and a life of his or her own. What right does someone have to
want to interfere in that life, by wanting to play a larger part in
it?
To me it just seems like the motivation
of liking someone is for self gain. Sure, you could get lucky and
the person you like ends up liking you, then you both gain, but how
often does that happen? At least in my experience, and from others
who I know, not very often.
If you don't know if that person likes
you back, you can always try asking him or her out or something to
find out, then leave him or her alone if he or she turns you down.
That doesn't seem too selfish, but ever consider his or her feelings
in the matter? If the person is nice, then you are putting him or
her in a situation where he or she will feel bad about turning you
down, because he or she may feel your feelings are being hurt. You
could also put him or her in an uncomfortable situation, if you see
him or her on a daily basis (like at school or in the workplace).
There is also the possibility that you'll cause him or her more stress,
and if his or her life is already stressful, then you are doing him
or her a major disservice.
Perhaps I'm over thinking things, and
just trying to make excuses for not asking someone out. Though in
my twisted form of messed up logic, this makes sense.